Most of the time when people think of a updo they think about hard and crunchy...well, not all updo's are hard and crunchy! I think the best updo's are softer. Now it all depends on the ocassion,the dress and the personality. When choosing a updo you want to stay true to your personality and keep that in mind when flipping through the hundreds of books there are for updo's. I can tell you from experience and from a hairstylist's perspective that this can be a very frustrating task. The three main things you want to do before seeing your hairstylist is 1. figure out how you want the front 2. figure out how you want the sides 3. figure out how you want the back. These things are important because it will help eliminate the time looking at pictures and re-doing the style. whether or not you want bangs or it all slicked to the back, or maybe loose sides or loose curls or pincurls and etc. It will give your stylist the bigger picture from the beginning. It will always go smooth when you and your stylist are on the same page. Remember these tips and see how smooth it goes next time you have an important event,prom or dinner to go to.